Dah hampir seminggu tak tulis blog. Mencari-cari topik terbaik untuk ditulis. Sebenarnya ada banyak topik yang berlegar didalam kepala tetapi agak berat dan membosankan bagi anak-anak untuk membacanya.
Lalu saya terfkir tentang perangai orang kita dan kita bandingkan dengan perangai "mat salleh".
Selalu kita dengar, mat salleh ni membawa "budaya kuning" iaitu budaya yang negatif atau budaya buruk. Pada pandangan saya, ada banyak perkara baik yang boleh kita ambil dan buat sebagai teladan didalam hidup kita. Didalam cabang pekerjaan saya dulu, dah terlalu banyak jenis manusia yang pernah saya temui dan yang paling teruk bukanlah "mat salleh" ni, tetapi yang datang dari India dan juga orang Arab.Mungkin ramai yang tidak percaya apabila saya katakan orang Arab tetapi itulah realitinya. Mereka jenis yang kasar, tidak tahu menghormati masa dan senang mengeluarkan kata-kata yang kesat apabila marah. Sebab itulah, Allah menurunkan ramai nabi-nabi dibumi Arab.
Mai kita buat sikit perbandingan :
i) Buang sampah merata-rata. Kita tengok mat salleh bila dia makan ais-krim, kertas aiskrim yang kecik tu pun dia pegang atau masukkan dalam beg galas dia, sampai jumpa tong sampah baru dia buang.
Bandingkan dengan orang kita, dia didalam kereta didepan, kita dalam kereta belakang. Sekali, tengok-tengok plastik teh O ais terlekat dicermin kereta kita siap bersembur dengan teh O ais tu tadi. Sakit hati tu satu hal, tak beradab satu hal. Pulak tu, boleh pulak jeling tengok dalam cermin pandang belakang,agaknya nak tengok reaksi kita! Dah menjadi kebiasaan, kita suka membuang sampah merata-rata tempat.
ii) Mat salleh ni selalunya suka membaca. Ada jugak yang tak suka tapi lebih ramai yang gemar membaca. Sesiapa yang terlibat dalam servis pelancongan ni tentu bersetuju dengan saya. Bila mereka berjemur dipantai, tetap ada sebuah buku ditangan, dia orang pergi makan, sementara menunggu makanan sampai, dia orang baca,sebelum tidor, dia orang baca. (untuk anak-anak pun dia orang tolong baca) Jadi dengan sendirinya anak-anak itu akan suka membaca sebab dah terbiasa dengan cara ini.
Sama seperti kita, bila nak tidor kita ajar anak baca Bismillah dan doa tidor. Jadi sampai besar pun anak-anak akan buat benda ini. Jadi apa salahnya kita tambahkan sikit selepas doa kita baca buku sebelum anak-anak tidor jadi bila besar mereka dengan sendirinya mengamalkan amalan ini. Ini tidak, kita mak bapak pun suka melepak rumah jiran bersembang berjam-jam, kalau tak pun pergi shopping mall jalan-jalan cuci mata, macamana anak-anak nak dapat sifat suka membaca ni.
iii) Makan terutamanya ditempat yang menyediakan buffet. Orang barat kalau makan dia orang akan mengambil apa yang di ingini dulu, dah habis nanti baru dia ambil lagi. Jadi makanan tak membazir.
Berbanding dengan orang kita.Kadang-kadang saya malu juga bila tengok sikap orang kita, bila saya kata orang kita, maksud saya bukan saja orang melayu tetapi juga orang Cina dan India sebab kita Malaysian. Buffet tu makanan nya berbagai-bagai dan banyak. Hotel atau restoran memang dah boleh agak berapa ramai orang yang akan makan ditempat mereka dan chef mereka juga memang berada ditepi dapur siap sedia untuk masak sekiranya makanan habis. Tetapi mengapa bila ambik makanan, semua makanan nak dibubuh sampai penuh pinggan termasuk dengan pencuci mulut sekali? Sepatutnya, cara yang lebih sopan, kita ambil sikit dulu apa yang kita betul-betul suka. Bila dah habis baru bangun lagi sekali dan ambil lagi. Suka hati kita nak bangun berapa kali pun sebab kita dah bayar dengan harga yang mahal untuk buffet tadi.
iv) Sikap yang paling saya suka tentang orang barat ialah, dia orang tak ambik pot pasal orang lain. Contohnya saya tinggal disebelah rumah "mat salleh" ni dan bekerja tak tentu masa. Si mat salleh ni tak kisah pun nak tanya kenapa awak selalu keluar rumah tak kira masa. Mereka akan tetap menegur kita dengan dua tiga ayat sahaja seperti good morning ke how are you ke. Itu sudah cukup untuk menceriakan hari kita.
Dibandingkan dengan orang kita, kita amat senang untuk membuka mulut dan bercerita perkara buruk tentang jiran dan kawan kita. Memang sedap bila mengata tu, tapi kalau kita sendiri diumpat dan kita terdengar orang bercakap perihal kita, boleh berperang jadinya. Tapi bila kita mengata orang, kita tak ingat apa perasaan orang itu kalau dia mendengar. Jadi sama-samalah kita renungkan.
v) Kalau berjanji dengan mat salleh, tak payah risau. Janji pukul 10pagi, pukul 9.50 dah terpacak menunggu. Jadi kerja kita akan berjalan dengan lancar sebab time tak lari, ikut time seperti yang dah diatur. Kalau ada mat salleh yang tak tepat janji, yang itu mungkin dah lama tinggal kat Malaysia, kalau tak pun dia orang pernah tinggal di India atau Arab. Ooi, masaalah dan menyakitkan jiwa bila orang tak reti nak ikut time ni.
Banyak kali bila saya berjanji dengan orang-orang kita, dah la tak tau nak datang ontime, separuh tu pulak langsung tak nampak batang hidung, pulak tu tak telefon ke sms ke bagi tau tak boleh datang.. Masya Allah..kenapa sampai macam ni sekali tabiat orang kita. Belajarlah menghormati masa. Kalau cakap pasal agama, bukan main berapi lagi hujah dia tapi benda yang senang macam ni pun tak tau nak jaga macam mana nak berdakwah kat orang lain.
Jadi,itulah sedikit sebanyak yang ingin saya kongsi bersama semua diluar sana. Mana yang elok kita ambil buat pedoman. Perangai dia orang yang tak elok tak payahlah kita ikut. Barulah kita boleh menjadi insan yang berhemah tinggi, hebat dan berbudi bahasa.
Sekian buat hari ini
Rose
14th.July '12
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN US,MALAYSIANS AND WESTERNERS/EUROPEANS
Hello everyone!
It's been nearly a week since I last update my blog. Searching for the best topic to write. Actually I had quite a few in mind but had to find the most readable before writing and then publishing it.
Finally, I settled to writing about the behaviour of the Europeans or the Westerners.
Before I write, please excuse my grammar and spelling, especially spelling because I tend to write using British spelling instead of American spelling as that was what we learnt in school years ago.
Many a time we heard and being told that the Europeans only bring bad influence or "yellow culture" literally translated from Malay. To my opinion,there are a lot of good influence that can be taken and blend in into our society. I used to work in service industry years ago and through my experience, I've met various type of people from all over the world and I can vouch that the worst behaviour doesn't come from either Europe or America. Sorry to say, but they come from India and Middle East. Maybe it's hard to accept for us being Muslim,but it's the truth. The Arabs are rough both in words and in character, that is
why God sent most prophets in Arab countries .... The Indians like to twist their words and had never been good in punctuality.I am not being racist. I am merely stating the facts.
Let's do a little comparison :
i) Littering: For an instance, a European would keep the ice-cream wrapper with him/her until they find the rubbish bin before they throw it off. Compare to us. There's a car in front of us and we're tailing behind. Suddenly some of iced lemon tea in it's plastic container were splashed right at our windscreen. It's because they throw it out from their moving car and to make matters worst, the driver is glancing from his rear mirror to see our reaction. What an idiot! As if we would be laughing with joy at such an annoying gesture.
So, that is us, littering anywhere we feel like it.
ii) Europeans like reading. There are some who are just not into reading but many do. Whoever had at one time or another been involved in service industry would agree with me. Take it when they were at the beach? There would be a book with them to read while sun-bathing, when they were waiting for their meals, there would be a book in their hands and they would read for their children before sleep. Thus, the children would take up this habit and do their own reading once they grow up.
Just like us, we teach our children to say a little prayer to Allah and some "doa", why don't we slip in a little reading for our children so that they too would regard books as something they would treasure and appreciate once they grow up. What we do today, is we bad-mouthed our neighbors, we gossiped for hours and we window shopping aimlessly every now and then. What do we get in return? Nothing!
iii) Buffet meals : This is another thing we should take a minute to look and learn how the Westerners behave themselves when approaching buffet table. Again not all of them are well-behaved but majority does. They would only place a few items in their plates, bring it to the table and savour it. After finishing it then only will they get up and get some other dishes that caught their eyes. That way, they don't waste the food unnecessarily.
We,Malaysians are the opposite. Sometimes it is kind of embarrassing to see our people behaving this way. When I say our people,it doesn't necessarily mean only the Malays, Chinese and Indians too as we are all Malaysians and most of us behaving that way. We would place our plates full of everything. Appetizers, main course even the desserts were all dump into a plate. Buffet means a counter or long table serving a variety of foods usually in hotels or restaurants. This also means that the hotel or restaurant knows how many customers to expect and even if the food were cleaned up earlier, they have their chefs by the stove ready to batter up another serving.
I've worked in hotel before and had heard nasty remarks from waiters, cooks or even their chefs when facing these type of guests. It is hurtful.
iv) The best attitude about these Europeans/Westerners are, they don't bother about other people's lives. They would still greet you hello and wish you to having a nice day but other than that, they are unobtrusive. This would already make my day.
What about us? We are a totally opposite society. We always wanted to interfere with other people's lives.It is unhealthy and we should make a stop right away.
v) When we make an appointment with the Europeans, there's nothing to worry about. The appointment is set at 10:00am, they'll be there by 09:50am. If there are those who is not punctual, then most probably he/she had lived in Malaysia or India or any of those Arab countries for a while. Especially the Indians. Their sense of punctuality is scary. Their 5 minutes is equal to 40 minutes. When you left, they'd call and insisted that they had been waiting since an hour ago. So, Malaysian + Indians + Middle East = no respect for punctuality. A few times my appointment with friends turned sour as they either didn't come on time or didn't show up at all. Without any call or text messages at all. Arghh.. I give up.
That's all that I can share with you today. Whatever is good, take and blend it into our daily lives. Leave the bad influence out. That way, people will respect us for what we are.
Have a nice evening,
Rose
7th.July '12
